Foolishness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get a different result. Unfortunately, when it comes to our parenting we all tend to act like fools. We get stuck in reacting the same way to our children’s defiance or disobedience. We think that if we repeat ourselves we might get a different result. We are all guilty as charged. Parenting is a difficult task that requires thoughtfulness and a plan.
Here are some questions to help you to parent differently and to stop acting like a fool- something that I have a tendency to do quite often.
- What are your 3 biggest behavioral challenges with your kids? Write them down on paper so you can look them over periodically. I recommend reviewing them every month to assess your progress.
- How are you currently trying to address those challenges? Actually write out what you are currently doing. Are your current strategies effective? Think about the last week and recall how you handled those challenging situations. What worked? What didn’t work?
- Are your goals realistic? Evaluate your expectations as they pertain to those challenges. As parents, we all have a tendency to want what we want without stepping back to see things from our children’s perspective.
In order to be able to answer these questions, you need to spend time being deliberate in your evaluation of your current parenting. You will not be able to make changes until you identify the problem areas that need to be changed. Some of you might not even realize that the problem with your kids’ behavior is your ineffective strategies. This is a process that takes time, effort and a plan. Be patient with yourself and with your kids.