Be Curious and Fail Often

Have you every felt worried and been told it will be OK? Maybe it isn’t OK. Have you ever felt down and been told you have nothing to be sad about? Ridiculous–Sadness is a healthy negative emotion. Have you ever been under stress and been told everything will work out? But maybe it won’t work out. Why do we so easily deny, redirect, and dismiss certain emotions? Because we are seldom taught about emotion early in life. And therefore, we are rarely taught to be curious about them early in life. And this lack of curiosity is the origin of humiliation, the root of guilt, the source of self blame and self doubt, and the core of assuming that most often results in some very unhealthy negative feelings.

I can’t tell you how many times I have been in a social situation and a person has sighed at a comment I made, disrupted me mid sentence, and/or walked away in the midst of a conversation. End result was a lot of anxiety. And because of my own lack of curiosity into how I was feeling in that moment, I automatically assumed that I was being rejected, fictitiously believed I was no good, and felt very anxious as a result. If I had been a bit more curious, I would have thought more about the realities; the knowledge that I do not have the ability to read someone’s mind, the wisdom to understand that I am worthwhile regardless of someone else’s criticisms, and the ability to know that those moments of vulnerability are the paths to courage instead of a journey to self imposed anxiety and depression. Listen to your emotions and be curious about them; they are the most valuable and important part of you. When denied, negative emotions become far more toxic. When heard, explored, and unconditionally accepted, they become the passage to emotional freedom and balance. Fail often, be vulnerable, and listen to your thoughts and emotions. These 3 fantastic and emotionally bright individuals certainly understood.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
Helen Keller

 “Pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our consciences, but shouts in our pains. It is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”
C.S. Lewis